I understand. You cherish him.
I understand. He really does care about you.
I understand that you are so invested that you are clinging to the few happy memories amid the flood of unhappy ones.
Dear Friend,
As people, we occasionally catch ourselves clinging to things or people that really weigh us down. When we don't want to notice the bad things, we occasionally look for the smallest traces of the good things. Occasionally, our imaginations create scenarios of what he, you, or life might look like if just one small detail were different. One tiny thing. That unhealthy ship you’re in.
Maybe it is the belief that all attention is good attention. Maybe the insecurities that run through your blood make you feel better when he causes you to bleed. Perhaps it's the way his eyes soften when he realizes that he has hurt you. But you are aware that they grow darker faster than your heart can recover. Perhaps it's the way he makes you believe you are incapable of achieving greater success than him. You are more capable than him, don’t doubt yourself. Maybe it's because he occasionally shows kindness. Or is it because you're afraid to be alone yourself?
Maybe he doesn’t physically leave scars, but you have spent enough nights with your tear-stained cheeks and your exhausted mind. Maybe he actually does have a good side, but we’re not seeing it.
Maybe he will change. But you can do better than his best could ever be. You have support around you; you have people who will continue to be your guide. You have the qualities of an individual who deserves to be with someone who truly loves you for who you are. You deserve to be with someone who wants to spend time with you, who wants to listen and talk to you, and who sees you in ways you never thought you could.
Dear Friend,
I can't bear to see you suffer. Knowing that I can't persuade you to realize the potential benefits of ending this relationship hurts. I understand that the only thing I can do for you is to stick by your side and support you as I work to make you realize and recognize how stunning you really are.
With love,
Remi.
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